How Do I Make The Jump From Friends To Lovers?

Do you have that long time friend that has always been there for you? The friend that you call when times are the darkest and all you really need is someone to listen or talk to. Time has passed and your feelings of friendship may have been replaced with an out of nowhere urge to make-out  with your BFF like two teenagers!

What do I do? Do they feel the same as I? I don't want to lose the friendship... but...I gotta know! HELP!!!  I got you covered. Here are three easy steps to making the leap from friends to a relationship that you have been waiting for your whole life.

1) Use a Messenger

It's time to revert back to the days of  elementary and junior high when a guy or girl would send their friend over to see if so-and-so liked them. It’s probable you both share common friends. So.... have one of those friends do some prodding on your behalf to get a general idea of where they see things going, etc. etc. This may be a bit childish for some, but can certainly provide a good work around for any reservations you have about broaching the subject you may have.

2) Drop Some Hints

For God sakes drop some “hints” or comments and see how the other person reacts. These hints can be verbal cues (try calling them honey or angel) or physical ones (rub their shoulders or instead of smooch on the cheek move in for a soft lips kiss...No Tongue!!!)  maybe this can provide you with a good idea for what the other person is thinking or feeling.

Okay a better way to put it for all the uptight people. Verbally you can comment on how the communication you share is really valuable to you and something  you would want from a potential lover, or tell them that they exhibit the characteristics you find desirable. There are also hints you can do through actions, such as an extended goodbye hug, grabbing their arm or shoulder to direct them somewhere, pulling out chairs at dinner or touching them and looking directly into their eyes letting them know this time is for you only etc...

3) Be Brave. Take The Direct Approach

Okay this is idiot proof and certain to works. It's as easy as it sounds. Simply tell the person how you feel about them and ask how they feel about you and if they ever see things progressing beyond a friendship. The direct approach, while carrying the most potential for nervousness and potential discomfort, is the best way to get the answer your looking for and that is, knowing how the other person feels.

There you go kiddos. Trust me whatever you decide you will achieve what you are after. maybe the other person is just waiting for you to make the first move. Hope this helps and Good Luck! -B